Embracing Vulnerability: A Leader’s Strength
Steven has been spearheading a critical project that has faced unforeseen challenges, resulting in delays and setbacks. The team is feeling the pressure, and there's a palpable sense of frustration among team members. The CEO calls a meeting of the team and asks for a status report, directing the question to Steven. Steven now stands at a familiar crossroads. He can maintain a stoic front, downplaying the challenges. Or, he can openly acknowledge the setbacks, taking responsibility for any mistakes made, and expressing a genuine commitment to finding solutions collaboratively.
Which would you choose?
In the dynamic landscape of leadership, the concept of vulnerability has emerged as a powerful and counterintuitive strength. Researcher Brené Brown defines vulnerability as, "the emotion that we experience during times of uncertainty, risk, and emotional exposure." It's the raw, authentic expression of our feelings and experiences. Now, if you're wondering how this fits into leadership, you're not alone. For years, vulnerability has been perceived as a weakness, especially in business. But, what if I told you that vulnerability could be one of your greatest strengths as a leader?
The Power of Vulnerability in Building Trust, Fostering Open Communication, and Encouraging Innovation
When leaders show vulnerability, they are sending an important message to their teams: "It's okay to be human." This creates an atmosphere of psychological safety, where team members can freely express their thoughts and concerns without fear of judgment or punishment.
This level of openness leads to increased trust and stronger relationships within the team. As Patrick Lencioni, author of "The Five Dysfunctions of a Team," explains, trust comes from knowing that when a team member challenges you, it is because they care about the team.
Furthermore, when leaders demonstrate vulnerability, they promote open communication. Team members feel more comfortable sharing their ideas, challenges, and feedback, creating a culture of transparency and collaboration. This fosters problem-solving, decision-making, innovation, and growth.
I vividly remember a seminar early in my career, where I had the privilege of hearing from a globally recognized expert in their field. During a Q&A session, someone asked an insightful question. Instead of pretending to know everything, the expert humbly admitted that they didn't have the answer but promised to do research and share their findings. This vulnerability in front of a large audience earned the expert even greater respect.
In contrast, I had a professor in seminary who was considered one of the greatest theologians in the world. After delivering a lofty presentation to us first-year students, one of my friends jokingly asked, "Professor, what is the meaning of life?" Rather than playfully responding, the professor arrogantly went on for five minutes using complex language that made him appear foolish instead of wise.
Cultivating Vulnerability in Leadership
How Can Leaders Cultivate Vulnerability? Here are three practices:
Active Listening:
In leadership, listening skills can be more significant than speaking skills. By actively listening to others, leaders show that they value diverse perspectives and are willing to learn. This builds trust and strengthens relationships within the team. Not only does active listening create a safe space for honest communication, but it also leads to more effective decision-making. So, let your ears lead the way to vulnerability and better leadership.
Admitting Mistakes:
Embracing vulnerability means acknowledging and owning up to mistakes. Leaders who admit their errors demonstrate authenticity and gain trust and credibility from their team members. They pave the way for a culture of learning and growth, encouraging everyone to take responsibility and improve. By embracing vulnerability through admitting mistakes, leaders become more relatable and effective.
Modeling Openness:
Leaders can foster vulnerability by modeling openness. Sharing thoughts, feelings, and intentions, leaders create an environment of authenticity and trust. This includes the powerful act of saying, "I don't know." This openness encourages collaboration and effective decision-making. It also promotes a culture of inclusivity and support, where everyone feels comfortable expressing themselves. By modeling openness, leaders build trust, foster collaboration, and inspire a motivated workforce.
Vulnerability really can be a strength when it comes to leadership. Embracing it and allowing ourselves to be vulnerable is not only beneficial for our teams but will improve relationships, grow trust, and create an honest environment to work in - all valuable qualities for any organization. Active listening, modeling openness, and learning from mistakes provide an opportunity for leaders to lead with vulnerability.
Remember Steven? In response to the CEO’s question Steven summoned the courage to speak the truth and vulnerably admitted the challenges his team faced, and the ways in which he had contributed to the problem. The next three seconds of silence seemed like an eternity to Steven, but the CEO’s smile broke the tension and her words put the wind back in Steven’s sails, “I appreciate your honesty Steven. Please let me know how I can help.” And when Steven looked at his team members he saw more than relief in their eyes; he saw a new level of respect.
Are you ready to embark on a transformative journey? It might not be easy, but with practice, progress is within reach. Don't hesitate to reach out if you're interested in professional coaching to unlock your full potential. Together, we can explore a voyage of self-discovery, where you'll become a confident leader who embraces authenticity and transparency. This transformation will have a profound impact on our teams, fostering meaningful change. Let's get started!
